Friendship

When you meet someone who you connect with, you hope that it will be with someone who you can trust and truly be yourself and vice versa. To be fair, we all have our good and bad sides which the truth about the latter is sometimes kept hidden intentionally or not.

The above person who is someone who has revealed her true colors to me recently but truthfully, I saw them in the past but refused to believe. In the past, she had made comments about what she deserved and what she was going to get but normally backfired. Earlier this week, she decided that she was going to attend her ex husband’s father’s funeral unannounced to give grace because of two of their adult children are getting married this summer. In my heart, I believe that her “good intentions” backfired in a huge way since the family wanted to celebrate their Dad/husband with those they loved and those who loved him. Can only guess when she walked in, “the shit it the fan,” likely. Her presence caused a seen that interrupted the peaceful celebration thus was likely removed quickly from the funeral home. My clue was that she commented on a text of mine to her in awful rude way. Honestly, I like the look for the good in people although her ex husband would say to me that I truly didn’t know her which I am realizing that he might be right. The time that she announced her plans, I had a weird wonky feeling about it which I didn’t share which I realize now that it likely might not have mattered.

In our relationship, I feel that she has to be superior to me although she is younger although I would like to believe that we are even because we both have our talents, skills and gifts. One hint is that she’s always putting others down probably even me. Trust me, I have my faults too that others share or I learn on my own. Our differences have been coming to light lately such as a cure for a sore throat which she would come up with some liquor recipe that she asked me if I knew about it which I replied that my Dad was a physician so I just took cold medicine. For being a “Christian,” alcohol seems to be the answer for a lot of things. We’re all not perfect which I am truly far from it so I do my best to be empathetic and understanding even 1200 miles away.

Have decided to wait until I hear from her since our last communication was Monday night. Life will be good either if I do or I don’t. Lesson learned.

Please feel free to comment on your friendships or comment on mine on what I could’ve done better with.

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Men

Yes, I finally arrived at one of our most interesting topics ever.

A long time ago, I was married then divorced by a man who unfortunately was unfaithful and thought only of himself. After we split, he has been married numerous times and hangs out with one of my brothers. Yes, he was a learning experience that I learned never to second guess your intuition because its always right.

Since then, I have had some relationships that failed because I learned to trust my intuition after my failed marriage. One man who I dated for awhile refused to give me back my baking dishes back which he physically prevented me from going to his kitchen to retrieve them. Another who was much younger than me ended up marrying my supervisor who blamed me for not telling her about him. Admittedly, I have had crushes along the way some with not so savory men which I made the right decision in the end not to pursue or be pursued.

When I worked for a financial institution in Michigan years ago, I saw this handsome, tall, well dressed, intelligent man who was coming to examine the business. For years, I looked forward to the examination just to see him. We were never introduced though. One year, I told my supervisor who wanted me to be happy with someone so I told her about him. She thought that he was “fine” and dressed well. She had met him during the examination meetings of managers to answer questions. She asked me if she could tell him how I have been feeling about him for years which I said, “yes.” One day mid way through the examination, she told him which I was in the back where he could see me. Come to find out that he was always attracted to me as well. Unfortunately, upper management learned about this and tried making it to work to their advantage. As you might be thinking, it was conflict of interest to the 9th degree. Nothing could or would happen because the right relationship requires right decisions to be made even if no one benefits.

Years later, I lost my job because of the new CEO because we went to same college for my freshman year which the new leader remembered. I lost my position just before our examination which he learned that I was gone.

Before moving to another State, I contacted his daughter to let the examiner know of my impending move. We chatted for a while but being so far away neither one of us wanted long distance relationship. In those times, I felt in my heart that if the situation was different, we might be together today still.

About 8-9 months ago, I was driving my daily route to the post office for my employer which I saw noticed this BMW who I saw him driving it only a few minutes away from my work. Truthfully, I almost wrapped the vehicle around a tree. Later on, I contacted his daughter to find out but she neither confirmed or denied it. All the years at the financial institution, he always drove a BMW. It was difficult to see him again.

Afterwards, I contacted his daughter to let him know that I plan to move again to another party of the country in the long term because I miss being near water and winter. Finally, I have given up with the man who was never meant to be mine. Honestly, I does hope he finds his true love so he doesn’t have to deal with work stress alone.

My life has taught me independence and self reliant although I am human with a heart. Wisdom has taught me to trust my first gut feeling on anyone. For those of you who are in long term relationships with your man, you are truly blessed. Add, kids and grandchildren who adds to your blessings.

Today, I have missed him because he came to my mind instantly thus he’s the inspiration of my blogging. Not long ago, I did drive by the State’s regional examination office just because which later I had the odd feeling that he found out. Cameras and license plate tracking.

In closing, please feel free to comment about relationships in general or anyone specific. Please leave actual names out. Thanks.

In peace, love, happiness and friendship,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

March

The month of March is spring, summer or winter depending on where you live. The month of March is a time of change not just for the weather and for the seasons but many lives are changing too.

When I lived in a known tourist town in northern Michigan, March was the beginning of spring clean up to be ready for the tourists who spend their summers in the small town. With current weather conditions up north, people are getting ready indoors for the summer.

How does spring affect the mature woman? What do you normally do this time of year? How does it affect your health? Spring break travel? Retired or working?

After the spring storms comes beauty, Our challenges and difficulties bring out who we truly are so when the “storm” is over, we can be grateful for the peace and appreciate the beauty of life such as a grandchild, the blooming of a plant, sunrise or a sunset, or listening to the birds in the morning while drinking a cup of coffee or tea.

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Comfort Zone

Today, I am proud of my friend who did something outside of her comfort zone today by hosting her first live sale show on a selling app like Poshmark or MerCari.

My friend who is shy and quiet except for her job. She gets the job done of talking all the time and being around people. She told me that she was thinking about not doing it at all which I left her alone to make that decision on her own but she came through and did it. One hour and 36 minutes long.

A few hours later, she scheduled another one.

Believe that we don’t grow and learn if we don’t take chances even being the magnificent, modern, mature women that we are. These opportunities keep us young.

Truthfully, this blog is out of my comfort zone which I was terrified to start for no reason. The first posts were the most difficult until I found my lane.

My challenge to you is do one thing that is outside of your comfort zone no matter how big or small. Are you game?

Thank you.

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Facebook

Facebook which an idea that turned into a social media phenomenon which some people love it and some hate it.

My experience on Facebook has reunited me with friends whom I have known since kindergarten plus it has given me friendships with the most unlikely people who I knew in high school. Truth be known, I did go through 8th grade in the metro Detroit area then high school in northern Michigan. For my Detroit friends, we support each other with casual conversations and being from the Motor City, we don’t overshare. It’s the type of spirit that is soothing. Although, a couple of years ago, my first grade boyfriend was on who I wondered if he remembered our short relationship until one day he made the comment, “ we should get back together because it has been the only relationship that has worked.” It made my day. Afterwards, I believe that he met someone which makes me happy for him. The “up north” Facebook, the relationship with some are what they were in high school. My surprise is from someone who i went to high school who I never communicated with. I believe that she thought she had me figured out until we got to know each other better positively on the app. Her post said,”If I ask you if you want me to be honest, say no.” So, my natural response was that I would say yes because I don’t fear truth or honesty. She laughed.

After sharing the positive side of it, the negatives are that people who get harassed on and off the site for what they post which I have experienced personally. I would get calls after a long, hard day at work and get lectured about it. My response was that I have known them since kindergarten so I think that I am okay but it was one avenue that they couldn’t try to control my life. For peace, I blocked them. Believe that the person was concerned about me learning things about them that they didn’t want me to know but already did.

Wisdom and intuition are my determinants for what I post about and, more importantly, what I don’t. If I’m having a bad day, I ask for prayers without going into details. What do you do?

What are your thoughts and feelings about Facebook? Instagram and X are different as well as LinkedIn.

Have a Great Day!!

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Soul

Conversation last night with a dear friend that not everything you do needs to feed your wallet but, sometimes, more importantly one’s soul.

My friend who was trying to be helpful suggesting that I find another job at the age of 63 that fits more of who I am which the one I have currently pays the bills and allows me to do what I need to do on my time away from work. My Dad was an osteopathic physician who, in his free time, fed his soul by oil painting and design. One or two of the houses which I lived in growing up, he did the architectural design as a way to feed his soul. Plus, he was into gardening of making it beautiful with plants that fit the environment.

My friend who is former coworker and a former supervisor who came from a Vermont dairy farm who has one of the strongest work ethics of anyone who I ever met. When we worked together it was great because we got things done together. Sometimes, I have encouraged her to step back and do something that she enjoys which mostly fails on my end.

With wisdom comes appreciation that the most beautiful things in life cannot put a value on. Discovering what feeds one soul doesn’t necessarily feed one’s wallet. Growing up, singing was it for me but later became writing. In addition, sitting on a few special beaches and riding my bike on a paved trail feeds my soul. Traveling and adventure are helpful to me.

What do you do to feed your soul? What is it that gives you satisfaction that you cannot put a value on it? If you are having a bad day, what or where is the one thing or place that you gravitate to?

We were put on this earth more than to work and to make a living but to have a life that feeds our souls. Many times, it’s what finds us instead of us searching for it of natural tendency.

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Start of the Week

May your day be as beautiful as the sun is bright! May you take good care of yourself today. May you get rest and relaxation today for the week ahead. Most importantly, don’t let anyone undermine who you are and your worth. May you trust your intuition and gut instincts because things are truly how they seem many times.

You are beautiful, you are special, you are smart and intelligent. You are kind and loving. You know you best don’t let anyone decide for you on what you need or desire unless that person is on your team being a spouse or boyfriend or bestie.

May your wisdom and discernment help guide you this week!

Thanks again,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Happy FriYay!

Happy FriYay to all of you! Reached the milestone of 500 views here today for which I am truly thankful and grateful for all of you.

Working full time to pay bills and to be able to be here, Monday through Thursday is a grind because you don’t choose your coworkers and your work processes unless you’re an owner or manager. Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful and grateful to keep me and my felines fed and warm.

My current position is back room administrative duties such as printing, folding, and metering outgoing mail plus anything else that comes my way plus I answer incoming calls which I transfer to others. Plus, I scan internal documents. Truthfully, my skills are not being used and not being challenged. With that, I prayed that I will be able to do something meaningful and purposeful plus helpful to readers.

When I lived up north, I did earn my MBA plus my Six Sigma Greenbelt certification from the University of Michigan although I consider myself a Spartan of MSU. In addition, I volunteered at the Ronald McDonald House and a homeless shelter plus cleaned up and fixed up a summer camp for kids.

Happy FriYay to you! May you find your purpose at work or at your free time so that Friday is one more day of doing what you love.

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Life Hack

Today, I shared IKEA on X formerly known as Twitter about how I use their blue bags. For quick use, I put the big blue bag in my cargo net of my trunk that allows it to be stabilized and upright. IKEA loved the idea that their bag is being used to transport groceries from the supermarket to my home safely in my trunk inside of the cargo net. Then, when I get home, I open up my trunk and remove the bag from the cargo net and take it inside of my house. One trip. They loved it!

What are the little things that you do that makes a big difference? Think as we mature, we find ways to help life easier so that we can spend more time on more important things like grandkids or gardening. Please share.

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.

Men

My topic is about one of the most interesting topics to women is men. Our experiences differ with each other about men. We all have our stories to tell on how we found the one or that we’re looking or, like myself, I found content being on my own.

Growing up, I always dreamed of finding the one. In my younger years, my crushes include Marvin Gaye, David Ruffin from the Temptations, Michael Jackson younger years and John Denver. Spending most of my childhood in the metro Detroit area and being born in Highland Park, music more than sports influenced my young crushes.In my teen years, my crush was on a classmate who we shared mutual friends and who was always kind to me although he dated a cheerleader while he played football. Years later in Nashville on my honeymoon, I would see him again because he recognized me from across the room.

College years was more of sleeping around my sophomore year and beyond because I was at a private college where most of the male students were from out of State and some had girlfriends at home. Personally, it was something which I did on occasion because I felt lonely. I transferred from a 2 year junior college with dormitories to a private four year college big in the auto industry. My freshman year, I did date sporadically with a future pilot for a beer company but he ended it to date and eventually marry a girl who had a crush on him who grew up with him and went to the same high school and were from the same town. With the birth of MTV while I was in college, my crushes included Eddie Van Halen and Phil Collin’s.

Post college, I met a man at a bar who I would eventually marry although I was explicitly warned against because I didn’t know the person who was warning me thus lack of trust. The woman who raised him, not his birth Mother, played a huge role in our split plus his infidelities. Working in a financial institution at the time of our divorce, I got to know a few men who visited weekly. One, I had a crush on because we are the same ethnicity and from the same town, but he was dangerous with his after work activities. The other two who also visited the financial institution where I worked weekly were both closer to our personalities fitting each other. One ended meeting someone who I was/am happy for but the other remains single. Near the end of my employment, I shared that likely I would be moving to Texas which he told me where he cousin lived. He did tell me that I was a lady but he dates “factory whores” so that it wouldn’t be right for either of us. I did see him once but I refused to acknowledge his beeping. His cousin doesn’t live far away.

With work being a conflict of interest, I found a had a strong crush on a financial examiner at my work for years. When he learned about how I felt about him, he admitted that he had one for me. His energy was of pure sex appeal for me although he wasn’t the most gorgeous man that I was interested in. For years, I secretly wondered about him. One day, I admitted to my supervisor/friend about it because I trusted her and still do. She asked me if she could tell him which I gave her the okay to share. Come to find out, he had a crush me too but conflict of interest stopped us. Later, I moved to Texas which we kept in touch but ended it because nothing ever changed.

Musically, my celebrity crushes include Michael Bolton whose music got me through a divorce and who later I missed a chance to meet him in Detroit. Phil Collin’s still a crush. In college, I did work for an outdoor music theatre that I was near many of the music makers in the 80s. Michael McDonald and Peter Cetera were my favorites. Jon Bon Jovi and Eddie Van Halen were huge to me as well as I imagine some of you. Oddly, I never connected with actors of the big or the small screens although “Friends” which everyone had their person who was a crush or who was relatable.

In my life now and in the past, I have grown content being on my own with my cats. Yes, I appreciate the handsome man with bonus points of a personality and soul that makes him unforgettable. My heart hopes that person who I hope that he is happy and content no matter his profession or life’s work.

What are your experiences with men? What kind of wisdom have you shared with your daughters and granddaughters about men and relationships?

Thank you,

Leslie Elizabeth David.