”What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger stand a little taller..” lyrics from the song, “Stronger” by Kelly Clarkson which has become my anthem during challenging times.
My friendship with a person who I met at work in west Michigan who moved there from Vermont to find a husband. Initially, we hit off as friends greatly despite our differences from ethnicity, religion and upbringing. She grew up on a dairy farm while I grew up in the suburbs of Detroit.
At work, she found and eventually a man who she would marry, have 4 children with and then later divorced. Immediately afterwards, she started looking for husband number two which she hasn’t found yet.
My move to west Michigan was to find my own path and a career with maybe meeting someone. I had roommates who were dorm mates in college.
Our problem in our friendship is that she believes that she is smarter and wiser than me instead of equal footing. She encourages me to focus on my online closet because that something that she knows about and discourages me from writing here because no literacy is in her talents.
Truthfully, she’s not pleased with me because of a different opinion of her eldest divorce child who recently remarried and living rent free despite his well paying job. He’s been living rent free since his divorce from wife number one. They want to build a new home off the bat so they are allowed to stay rent free until then. The tip off was the vacant property that they are looking at is 100k. She later ignored me for not supporting her kid’s decision but to build later.
My parents built numerous homes which we never lived rent free. The equity of one home helped to build another. So, I understand the building process and financing.
This is one of those experiences that I will become stronger either by learning something new and admitting that I am wrong or by losing a friend permanently. Relationships are complicated so appreciate no criticism in the comments.
Thank you,
Leslie Elizabeth David.
The Magnificent Modern Mature Woman 