A person who is mad at me right now because I challenged her behavior respectfully on the way she acted during her son’s second wedding/marriage ceremony yesterday. She’s 55 years old. Divorced about 7 years ago.
She was bad mouthing her ex’s family on their behavior and talking about it behind their backs at the event. So, I told her not to take things so personally and to take the high road. She told me that it’s different because she had 4 kids with him which I responded that is the reason why. Truthfully, my friend doesn’t like being challenged by me which I rarely do.
Being divorced myself, I had to learn quickly to never speak bad about my ex because his coworkers were members of the credit union where I worked. I chose to take the high road to avoid problems. They stopped when I spoke kindly about him which forced me to remember the good things about him. Problem solved.
Family gatherings are stressful enough so take the “high road” which is difficult to walk but the reward of a beautiful feeling is the reward. It applies to any division in a family particularly divorce.
Thank you,
Leslie Elizabeth David.
The Magnificent Modern Mature Woman 