Men

Yes, I finally arrived at one of our most interesting topics ever.

A long time ago, I was married then divorced by a man who unfortunately was unfaithful and thought only of himself. After we split, he has been married numerous times and hangs out with one of my brothers. Yes, he was a learning experience that I learned never to second guess your intuition because its always right.

Since then, I have had some relationships that failed because I learned to trust my intuition after my failed marriage. One man who I dated for awhile refused to give me back my baking dishes back which he physically prevented me from going to his kitchen to retrieve them. Another who was much younger than me ended up marrying my supervisor who blamed me for not telling her about him. Admittedly, I have had crushes along the way some with not so savory men which I made the right decision in the end not to pursue or be pursued.

When I worked for a financial institution in Michigan years ago, I saw this handsome, tall, well dressed, intelligent man who was coming to examine the business. For years, I looked forward to the examination just to see him. We were never introduced though. One year, I told my supervisor who wanted me to be happy with someone so I told her about him. She thought that he was “fine” and dressed well. She had met him during the examination meetings of managers to answer questions. She asked me if she could tell him how I have been feeling about him for years which I said, “yes.” One day mid way through the examination, she told him which I was in the back where he could see me. Come to find out that he was always attracted to me as well. Unfortunately, upper management learned about this and tried making it to work to their advantage. As you might be thinking, it was conflict of interest to the 9th degree. Nothing could or would happen because the right relationship requires right decisions to be made even if no one benefits.

Years later, I lost my job because of the new CEO because we went to same college for my freshman year which the new leader remembered. I lost my position just before our examination which he learned that I was gone.

Before moving to another State, I contacted his daughter to let the examiner know of my impending move. We chatted for a while but being so far away neither one of us wanted long distance relationship. In those times, I felt in my heart that if the situation was different, we might be together today still.

About 8-9 months ago, I was driving my daily route to the post office for my employer which I saw noticed this BMW who I saw him driving it only a few minutes away from my work. Truthfully, I almost wrapped the vehicle around a tree. Later on, I contacted his daughter to find out but she neither confirmed or denied it. All the years at the financial institution, he always drove a BMW. It was difficult to see him again.

Afterwards, I contacted his daughter to let him know that I plan to move again to another party of the country in the long term because I miss being near water and winter. Finally, I have given up with the man who was never meant to be mine. Honestly, I does hope he finds his true love so he doesn’t have to deal with work stress alone.

My life has taught me independence and self reliant although I am human with a heart. Wisdom has taught me to trust my first gut feeling on anyone. For those of you who are in long term relationships with your man, you are truly blessed. Add, kids and grandchildren who adds to your blessings.

Today, I have missed him because he came to my mind instantly thus he’s the inspiration of my blogging. Not long ago, I did drive by the State’s regional examination office just because which later I had the odd feeling that he found out. Cameras and license plate tracking.

In closing, please feel free to comment about relationships in general or anyone specific. Please leave actual names out. Thanks.

In peace, love, happiness and friendship,

Leslie Elizabeth David.